Tranquil home inspired by Buddhism gives owner peace

By BEVERLY MOLANDER, The Atlanta Journal-Constitution, July 24, 2008

House received blessings from Tibetan monks

Decatur, Georgia (USA) -- Turn off busy North Decatur Road into a sleepy subdivision of brick 1940s houses, walk up to a stained glass door, and enter the oasis of tranquility that is Pam Wedding's home.

<< Hyosub Shin / A table is dedicated to images of the Dalai Lama, including a photo of him taken with Pam Wedding. Her grandchildren have given her the nickname 'Mama Lama.'

"Make yourself comfortable," she greeted. That was easy.

There's something to be said about having a home blessed by four Tibetan Monks.

As retired vice president of public affairs for Turner Broadcasting System, Wedding has turned her lifestyle down a notch. Her home reflects the influence of Tibetan Buddhism, even to the untrained eye. In April, she came out of retirement to become project coordinator for the Emory-Tibet Partnership at Emory University.

Wedding's journey into Buddhism has influenced every part of her life. It began during the 1996 Olympics, when the TBS executive worked with Oglethorpe University to set up an exhibit of mystical Tibetan art objects, many of which had been packed away since China's Cultural Revolution.

Mesmerized by the experience, Wedding was on her way to Tibet just one month later.

In her slightly furnished living room is a built-in bookcase filled with hardbacks on Tibetan Buddhism. Another bookcase holds her five Emmy awards, reminders of those deadline-dotted days in TV. Mixed in with "Healing and the Mind," a signed book from Bill Moyers, are books on Buddhist mandalas, labyrinths, art and meditation.

There is also a special medallion and a book autographed by the Dalai Lama that Wedding recently received for her volunteer work with the Drepung Loseling Center for Tibetan Buddhism Studies and Practices.

Everywhere are clusters of collections she calls sacred spaces. Some are whimsical, reverent or thought provoking. "Wherever I look I am reminded of the things I love," she explained, pointing out a homey grouping of framed prayers from all over the world. "I have little altars everywhere."

"One of the things that attracted me to this house was the studio in the back alcove," said Wedding, a former television graphic artist. Her styles have since shifted to portraits, illustrations and greeting cards, and her mermaid collection is inspiration for a book in progress.

Two primary objects of her affection are Wedding's grandchildren, preschooler Cayman, and his kindergartener sister, Georgia. Their "Mama Lama" shares her meditation room with them. On one wall is a shrine to Green Tara, a female deity poised for action and healing, with other deities surrounded by prayer beads she has collected over the years.

Another wall holds a shrine for the kids, an eclectic collection of statuettes and symbols. Holy water from the Vatican sits next to a ceramic mouse made by Georgia, and nearby is the ceramic rabbit crafted by Georgia's mom.

Wedding's collection of Aladdin's lamps is something everyone appreciates. "They remind me of the magic and mystery of all the things we know so little about," said Wedding. "I want to pass on this sense of wonder on to my little ones."

Add to the mix a collection of needlepoint pillows, tapestries and paintings by Wedding's long-deceased mother, and see what Wedding's life is all about today. She is a link from Buddhist antiquities into the future, as seen through the eyes of her grandchildren.

Wedding's tips on Making Peace with Your Home

  • Cluster, don't clutter. Keep objects of the same theme close together. Use only items that hold personal value.
  • Appreciate. Consider the pleasure that is available by simply gazing at each collection.
  • Feel. Life is about love, laughter, sorrow and awe. Let collections evoke those emotions.
  • Share. Welcome visitors. Telling stories about the objects enriches the total experience.
We Need Your Help to Train the
Buddhist AI Chat Bot
(Neural Operator for Responsible Buddhist Understanding)

For Malaysians and Singaporeans, please make your donation to the following account:

Account Name: Bodhi Vision
Account No:. 2122 00000 44661
Bank: RHB

The SWIFT/BIC code for RHB Bank Berhad is: RHBBMYKLXXX
Address: 11-15, Jalan SS 24/11, Taman Megah, 47301 Petaling Jaya, Selangor
Phone: 603-9206 8118

Note: Please indicate your name in the payment slip. Thank you.

Dear Friends in the Dharma,

We seek your generous support to help us train NORBU, the word's first Buddhist AI Chat Bot.

Here are some ways you can contribute to this noble cause:

One-time Donation or Loan: A single contribution, regardless of its size, will go a long way in helping us reach our goal and make the Buddhist LLM a beacon of wisdom for all.

How will your donation / loan be used? Download the NORBU White Paper for details.

For Malaysians and Singaporeans, please make your donation to the following account:

Account Name: Bodhi Vision
Account No:. 2122 00000 44661
Bank: RHB

The SWIFT/BIC code for RHB Bank Berhad is: RHBBMYKLXXX
Address: 11-15, Jalan SS 24/11, Taman Megah, 47301 Petaling Jaya, Selangor
Phone: 603-9206 8118

Note: Please indicate your purpose of payment (loan or donation) in the payment slip. Thank you.

Once payment is banked in, please send the payment slip via email to: Your donation/loan will be published and publicly acknowledged on the Buddhist Channel.

Spread the Word: Share this initiative with your friends, family and fellow Dharma enthusiasts. Join "Friends of Norbu" at: Together, we can build a stronger community and create a positive impact on a global scale.

Volunteer: If you possess expertise in AI, natural language processing, Dharma knowledge in terms of Buddhist sutras in various languages or related fields, and wish to lend your skills, please contact us. Your knowledge and passion could be invaluable to our project's success.

Your support is part of a collective effort to preserve and disseminate the profound teachings of Buddhism. By contributing to the NORBU, you become a "virtual Bodhisattva" to make Buddhist wisdom more accessible to seekers worldwide.

Thank you for helping to make NORBU a wise and compassionate Buddhist Chatbot!

May you be blessed with inner peace and wisdom,

With deepest gratitude,

Kooi F. Lim
On behalf of The Buddhist Channel Team

Note: To date, we have received the following contributions for NORBU:
US$ 75 from Gary Gach (Loan)
US$ 50 from Chong Sim Keong
MYR 300 from Wilson Tee
MYR 500 from Lim Yan Pok
MYR 50 from Oon Yeoh
MYR 200 from Ooi Poh Tin
MYR 300 from Lai Swee Pin
MYR 100 from Ong Hooi Sian
MYR 1,000 from Fam Sin Nin
MYR 500 from Oh teik Bin
MYR 300 from Yeoh Ai Guat
MYR 300 from Yong Lily
MYR 50 from Bandar Utama Buddhist Society
MYR 1,000 from Chiam Swee Ann
MYR 1,000 from Lye Veei Chiew
MYR 1,000 from Por Yong Tong
MYR 80 from Lee Wai Yee
MYR 500 from Pek Chee Hen
MYR 300 from Hor Tuck Loon
MYR 1,000 from Wise Payments Malaysia Sdn Bhd
MYR 200 from Teo Yen Hua
MYR 500 from Ng Wee Keat
MYR 10,000 from Chang Quai Hung, Jackie (Loan)
MYR 10,000 from K. C. Lim & Agnes (Loan)
MYR 10,000 from Juin & Jooky Tan (Loan)
MYR 100 from Poh Boon Fong (on behalf of SXI Buddhist Students Society)
MYR 10,000 from Fam Shan-Shan (Loan)
MYR 10,000 from John Fam (Loan)
MYR 500 from Phang Cheng Kar
MYR 100 from Lee Suat Yee
MYR 500 from Teo Chwee Hoon (on behalf of Lai Siow Kee)
MYR 200 from Mak Yuen Chau

We express our deep gratitude for the support and generosity.

If you have any enquiries, please write to: